Practical articles about au pair applications, matching and daily life in China.
互惠生落地家庭快半个月了，本来一切都好，这几天家庭却跟我半投诉半聊天地说，互惠生Louis在小朋友面前抽烟，还说是我们教的。The au pair had been with the host family for nearly two weeks. Everything seemed fine until the family half-complained, half-chatted with me: “Louis smokes in front of the kids and claims we taught him!”
很多国内家庭面试互惠生，来去几句几乎都是
Hello how are you? Welcome~
如果家庭请一个互惠生非但没帮到小朋友，反而让小朋友变得更焦躁的话，是不是一个很失败的案例？
What if hosting an au pair not only fails to help your child but actually heightens their anxiety? Let me share the story of Beatrice, an Italian au pair, and the unexpected chaos that unfolded.
电影里的“互惠生交流中心”，现实中真的存在！
还记得电影《洋妞到我家》里那个把中式幽默、哥伦比亚热情和鸡娃家庭日常搅在一起、制造出一连串笑料的“互惠生交流中心”吗？
它就是我们——仁互惠 AuPair Ren！
The “au pair exchange center” in the movies actually exists in real life!
Remember the “au pair exchange center” in the movie My New Sassy Maid that mixed Chinese humor, Colombian enthusiasm, and the daily life of a “tiger parenting” family, creating a series of hilarious moments?
That’s us — AuPair Ren!
Good communication is the cornerstone of a successful au pair arrangement. Be proactive in explaining your expectations regarding duties and schedules, and invite your au pair to share their thoughts. For example, one host mom admitted she was unhappy with certain things but stayed “friendly” and never told the au pair, so the au pair assumed “everything was fine” (Confused First Time Host Family : r/Aupairs). The lesson: don’t bottle up issues—schedule regular check-ins to talk. A weekly chat to ask how your au pair is adjusting and to offer feedback or praise can work well.
It is an exciting and meaningful journey to become an au pair in China. Along with the excitement, however, you may experience some emotional ups and downs. In psychology, there is a concept known as the Cultural Adjustment Curve (文化适应曲线)
上周一个墨西哥Ka互惠生联系我，
说已经在中国的一个家庭待了两个月了，
她是自己DIY来华，家庭也是DIY，
按理说，双方动手能力都很强啊，
但是Ka跟我说她想请我们帮她搬出来，
Last week, a Mexican au pair named Ka reached out to me. She had been staying with a Chinese host family for two months. Both she and the family had arranged their au pair placements independently—no agency involved. You’d think both parties were resourceful, right? But Ka told me she wanted our help to move out.
如果家庭想要自己DIY互惠生的话，恭喜你，你确实可以省一笔钱。
If a family wants to arrange an au pair on their own, congratulations! You can indeed save some money.
如果家庭请一个互惠生非但没帮到小朋友，反而让小朋友变得更焦躁的话，是不是一个很失败的案例？
Is it a very failed case if a family invites an au pair but not only fails to help the child but instead makes the child become more impatient?
一个德国互惠生，跨越千山万水来到一个北京家庭。为什么他会在临走告别的时候行窃？
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